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Sleeping in separate beds does not mean something is malfunctioning in their marriage. Know your benefits ...

It is not a usual practice, but has been successful in the United States, country where one in four couples living together purchase separate beds.

For 2015 it is predicted that sixty percent of the homes have two bedrooms. "You can not deny sleeping with another person implies a great effort and a tolerance that can sometimes break," says the Argentina Navy Salmeri sexologist.

Rest well is one of the behaviors that are lost when you share a bed with someone else. "If your partner snores, moves a lot, has a tense sleep will affect your partner and this will affect sleep and long in sexual intercourse and sharing everyday," he continues specialist.

To avoid the blame for not letting that both sleep and quiet sleep, sleep in beds in different rooms is even an option.

"To prove it does not hurt. The couple sleeping separately does not mean that they become roommates, can have better sex life and relate better if there is this tension, blame and constant fatigue, "said Salmeri.

The choice is interesting because the statistics say that sixty percent of men snore.

If both work and their waking hours do not match, is a good choice of sleeping in different rooms. The temperature of men and women are also unlikely to be couple: if it is hot, but she also cold disagreement will arise can be avoided.

"Having a bed for each zero tolerance does not mean life as a couple or unaccompanied.

There are times when you need to have a good sleep and not be in a bad mood all day, it is best to have a place for everyone, so that the meeting be more productive and desirable later.

It should be clarified or beds to sleep in separate rooms has nothing to do with a poor sex life, "says professional.

Benefits to consider when separate beds

- Eliminate the criticisms and problems snoring.

- Everyone can do what he wants without fighting. Watch TV, read or sleep.

- Discussions have just in case it's cold or heat.

- Not if your partner is often wake up several times during the night to go to the bathroom.

- No more problems in the morning when you get up and the other did not. Moreover if one of the two partners have a night job or sue you wake up at dawn.

- Have their own room and privacy in your home.

Although not a trend that will delight, is an alternative for those who complain of their partners and want to try to improve the emotional relationship in more ways than one.

The difficult time to introduce your new "friend" to your children and how to make it easier for all

"Meet my girlfriend"

If suddenly meet someone and the relationship appears to be special, as responsible parents we know we must prepare to report the current situation the most important people in our lives: our children.

Knowing someone when you're a single parent can be complicated, but it's definitely a child's play when compared with the trauma of having to tell your children.

Besides fears of your children to be replaced, you must also take account of the fear generated by the possibility of having a wicked stepmother.

Such fears are, from the perspective of an adult, of course unfounded, but your children are legitimate and need to be addressed.

So how are you going to tell you that you've met someone special, that there may be someone new in their lives?

Here are some suggestions-and some obligations and prohibitions - to help in this task.
Tell children about your new "friend"

* Be honest with your children

If it's a nice story and funny, not afraid to tell your children how he first meet your new friend.

When painting a picture you will be pleasantly romantic in a way, teaching your children that the romance is important and that is something to be hoarded.

Also, tell this story your children will appreciate your honesty, which usually is the language that children speak.
· She inquires about their feelings

Ask your children how they feel about the fact that you have a new "friend". Of course, it may surprise you and tell you that they are happy for you.

A beloved and well-bred boy is a little person empathic. Our children want to be happy, and they know better than anyone (luckily) that cuddles and kisses are required for all-even for Dad.

* Make them feel safe

Remind them that they are, and always will be, the most important people in your life. Nothing and nobody can ever change that fact.

* Suggest the possibility of an encounter

Honor your children and show them that you think they have the maturity to handle the situation. Future plans made flexible (read: no promises) and suggests that "when the time is right, maybe you could arrange a meeting to get acquainted. Whatever you do, do not rush things.

It is best to take your time and play safe. The last thing we want is for your children to get involved emotionally with a good woman, only to witness how the relationship breaks down-which would definitely suffer in the form.

* Prepare your children for the presentation

If you plan to make your children know your new partner, reveals what you like about it previously.

For example, you could say she has a great sense of humor who likes to have fun telling you about his daily life: "You know what Laura told me in the office today?

It was a really funny comment. He told me long ago observed the way I walk and I do like a monkey. " Doing this will prepare the boys emotionally and make it easier to find when face to face.

So they will know her in some predetermined level of confidence to her.

* Keep your family traditions

Do not start canceling family traditions for the simple fact of having met someone. These traditions are very important for children, and are those that tend to produce the most positive impacts on their lives.

Not only the kids remember these traditions for the rest of their lives but also tend to spend their own children the torch of the same traditions that you or perhaps your parents or grandparents have invented.

Do not gripe about family traditions. However, to make the necessary arrangements to include a new participant.

* Ask permission

If you have teenage children, and think sleepovers with your new friend, ask permission before doing so.

Reassure them that you have a cell phone and always on, and can contact you for any reason. partner

If you’re feeling unappreciated, underwhelmed, or just plain trapped, taking some time off may help.

Adolescence is the stage when sexual development. At this stage, along with physical and emotional changes, the boy discovers his sexuality, you feel like close contacts and discovers new feelings very intensely.

Sexual desire is not clearly defined at the beginning of this stage, so the adolescent may be attracted by a friend of the same sex. This, unlike what he might think, is part of the natural process of sexual development, so long an explanation to avoid the discomfort and confusion that might be feeling.

As time passes, feels increasingly drawn to the opposite sex, the sex drive is already clearly defined by what is now the problem reduces to overcome shyness and insecurity that makes them closer to the people of the opposite sex in general and especially when they feel a certain attraction.

2. Looking for information


The teenager is full of curiosity, he feels an enormous interest in knowing everything about sex, so they seek information from all possible sources. In general, the friends of where they receive the first information, and it is not surprising that most of the things they learn are incorrect or inappropriate and even misleading.

Other sources of information for them are television and movies, ie information through images. They also receive information through the internet as is generally overstimulated teen about sex and feel confused and depressed.

It is very important to be clear that parents who must help their children, guiding them to make informed decisions and consistent with themselves. It is therefore necessary that we speak in a clear and easy sex and regards him what love, intimacy, responsibility and consequences, besides teaching them to have a mature attitude toward sex.

With sound information in addition to avoiding problems is achieved that the teenager live their sexuality in healthy and responsible way, without any false expectations or pressure.

3. Values and respect to sex

It is our duty as parents to talk to the children of our views about sex and our religious beliefs, transmission of values and lifestyle, without this we require certain behaviors or remonstrate with certain decisions.

It is important also to talk to them respect in a relationship, communication, loyalty and love, love teaching them to live fully and delivered, remain free in their decisions and not be influenced by friends or by society.


4. Tips for parents to talk about sex

The adolescents, though they do not ask, are of great interest to know what their parents think about certain issues related to sex.

- Although it is uncomfortable for parents to talk to your kids about sex is an issue that should not shirk but cope and deal with the greatest possible respect to the children.

- If you are unsure how to begin to talk about sex, including pregnancy situations use of any known or scenes in a movie to start the conversation.

- We must be honest to them and give them the information they expect, responding to questions they do not scandalize us without lecturing.

- It is the duty of parents to make known their views about sex and if they think that sex should be taken from the marriage, they should say but also must accept the decision that your child takes. It is very important to inform and advise, but never impose.

- Sometimes teens feel pressured by friends to have sex, explain that a decision is too important to be authorized to decide for him.

- It is important that before you have been taught to have defined its own personality and so he is able to make their own decisions without being influenced.

"If we're not going to bed the waist, the kiss of life ... love ends, ruling with great care a popular song. Are we in time to avoid it?
Author: Aloyma Ravelo

The daily routine and the couple

One of the most important issues in our lives is caring and multiply our affections be loving and caring for people who love to turn, we served and loved.

In the intimate sphere, everyone knows the category that reaches our quality of life in the rewards of good sex, a life in harmony. Then what happens? Why do not we care more for the parcels of life?

Angel Roca Perara psychologist, professor at the School of Psychology at the University of Havana, is the approach that many times the usual and everyday wear due illusion.

Then the fans love before and do not kiss, unaware of the deepest desires of your partner, do not even ask and equally rewarding themselves do not ask. Perhaps because they expect a formal denial or complacency is perhaps worse. The fantasies are finished and the repertoire of verbal exchanges about the erotic sphere reaches its minimum.

When you reach this point, it is very near the end of love, and lands on a barren marriage without accomplices jokes that both mitigate the conflict, the weariness of work and struggles of life. Little by little, one enters a routine permeated by exhaustion, as has Elizabeth, a retired teacher:

"They are 30 years of marriage, and instead of being happy for having spent so many years with a good man, still with me despite my temper and my obesity, I feel sad. Almost 20 spent raising three sons, but now the kids left home and live their own life, but I could not live the mine.

Give it some rhythm to my marriage, but to the beat of salsa, at least danzon. It seems that when marriage is neglected, there remain some attention as vacation alone or occasionally send children to Grandma's house, the space between him and you end up filled with cobwebs. And now I find the duster to undo them.

Boredom and routine, enemies of the couple

The moral of Isabel's experience is clear: The first reason for existence of a couple is your community, your personal satisfaction, irrespective of the children - and if this is over, everything else is formal.

Many misunderstandings and breakdowns can be avoided by paying attention and spending time with your partner, especially for as long as diaphanous flowing exchange, both verbal and emotional.

When communication is part of the code of the couple, and thanks to it are understood, respected, no rush or double assault contradictory messages, can be heard, it is obvious that this is conducive to better sexual performance for both .. One day in harmony, provides a great night sexual encounter.

Bored wives, husbands incommunicado ... and vice versa

When there are disagreements, friction inherent in any marriage is better ventilated somewhere outside the house where the very act of staying in public, contain the emotions and not unleash their pride.

It is recommended to use the bed as a boxing ring. Some couples insult in bed and then left in the memories of both those bad times.

In bed, just love grow.

Overcome with greater maturity and efficiency conflict, but may fall to the enemy of boredom. Its members are more independent, but they may repeat past mistakes. To learn more characteristic of couples over 50, make sure you read the following article

Every cloud has a silver lining, the saying goes. But in the case of couples over fifty, you could also say that there is good that evil does not come.

It happens that the relationships that they experience at this age have, like all human relationships, a lot of pros and cons, which may be specific and distinctive, but, experts say, from any point of view entirely positive nor entirely negative.

And is that all experiences with those reaching this age, they can play us both for and against, depending on how they know or how they affect us capitalize beyond our wishes.

When playing experience for

According to the specialists say, a person who has reached fifty is a person who quite possibly better known and more specifically know what you are looking for and need. This feature, coupled with the fact that people of this age have gone through stages of frustrations, conflicts, crises, ruptures, or loss, cause the love that is alive is a more mature love in which each is better understood internally, know what you want, accept the reality and respect the other side of the couple as it is, without seeking to fit their needs.

On the other hand, couples of this age are usually made by people more independent, that have successfully developed a long road of life that taught them to take into account their own wishes, without leave to respect the other. Therefore, it is likely that in a couple of this age there is greater independence and harmony in the relationship, since in the opposite case, experts say, is very rare that the couple managed to survive from the moment that few those who tolerated his partner to live depending on their own.

That's why, experts say, that in the relations of people over 50 tend to have fewer scenes of jealousy or petty destructive, giving way to an area of healthy dissent, where they can expose and resolve any differences without thus jeopardizing the continuity of the couple.

And without doubt, at this age is more important to maintain closeness with their partner, rather than trying to emerge victorious from the absurd battle of the sexes and the ever present competition inherent in human beings.

This is where sexuality is also experienced from a different side, that no longer gives much importance to physical appearance or abilities, but to a much more intimate, leisure, and rewarding.

Not all is rosy

Despite the benefits provided by the experience, mutual understanding and maturity, experts say that at this age these same factors, other factors may also undermine a good living.

For many professionals in human behavior, both in love relationships as on other important issues of our lives, human beings do what we can, not what we want or what logic determined.

For that reason, beyond ages, experiences, or the will, it is possible for people to return again and again to fall into his own traps, even when they thought they had learned from their previous experiences.

And many experts say that come to their offices a lot of people complain about the demands and fears that exist on the other hand when looking into a new relationship, which makes them suspect that, in effect, often the dissolution of couples in the past does not mean a dissolution of past conflicts and frustrations, which continue to condition and frustrating to those who do not really have to overcome.

And for those that have an established and lasting partner, another of the risks that might impair their proper functioning is boredom, which is responsible for many cases of infidelity. It is therefore essential that once the children have left home, "or economic welfare is achieved without need for further efforts, reversing the growing time for free to find new activities and tasks that could give new meaning to link that is experienced.

Finding a partner is not so easy to do. Everything depends on the possibilities and options of each. How to search department for example, requires knowing how to search in that site, where real estate, etc..

In the case of a couple, it is important to be clear as to where to look. Internet sites have become one of the best options in recent years its popularity. People like you and me who can not find the love of his life, in places to meet people online that many choices in everyday life can not or do not intend to search.

The main advantage of these sites is that you can leave behind many prejudices that when we meet someone face to face. No matter what you think or say to someone face because you know you do not lose anything if you do, you can only win. The sites are divided into inter-groups, ie if you have any religion or ethnic origin, nationality, hobbies, sexual preferences, etc. If you are looking for someone who is like you, on Internet sites you can find. Another benefit of finding partners online, is that you can do it anytime of day from any computer you want. If you can not sleep, and those with nothing to do, you know there is someone on the other side of the monitor that is like you.

It may be in your city or anywhere else in the world. It is also a very promising way to open your mind and learn about other cultures outside of yours.

I have heard many stories of couples who met friends through the Internet at sites such as JDate, Date.com, and others. Some live together, others are married and very happy, others obviously did not work but I tried.

Especially for those who work late and do not have time to go out to bars and do meet someone online is ideal. (Especially given that in bars, most people just looking for a short night meetings, and no more than that.) This system is already a big change for those over 40, who were accustomed to another type of interaction to find your match.

However, there is no doubt that the Internet makes this process much easier and possible for many. Try it and see!