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Experts advise that two hours a day watching television or playing video games should be the limit to ensure that kids can be more healthy, strong and creative.

Here is a list exercise or fun and easy ideas to help kids be active (even without realizing it, many times, that they're exercising!)

1. Walking the dog

2. Walking the dog next door (with the permission of parents and the neighbor, of course)
3. Tracing a kite

4. Throwing a Frisbee

5. Ask your parents or grandparents to take you to a park or other area where you can make contact with nature

6. Bicycling

7. Riding a skateboard

8. If you have a yard, pick up litter or leaves in autumn

9. Weeding or weed

10. Rake the garden

11. Playing the leads

12. Hopscotch

13. Playing with a hula hoop and see who can hold for longer

14. Learn juggling

15. Jump rope

16. Visit the zoo, amusement park or museum (lots of walking)

17. Washing the car

18. Have each family member wear a pedometer and make a daily competition to see who gives more steps. The losers are the tasks of winning the next day.

19. Play basketball

20. Playing football

21. Playing softball or baseball

22. Playing Tennis

23. Have a water fight with bulbs

24. Wear your bathing suit and run around the shower.

25. Go swimming (never without an adult to supervise!)

26. Give the dog a bath. The bigger the dog, you do more exercises

27. Accompany to walk more (a grandparent, for example)
28. Prance.

29. Make pectoral

30. Make an exercise video and do a good workout

31. Tripping

32. Learning to play golf, or be otherwise caddy

33. Playing tennis

34. Playing mini-golf

35. Go bowling

36. Learn to spin a stick

37. Take a martial arts class and learn self-defense

38. Build a fort and play cowboys and Indians

39. If you have a two-story home or basement, move objects up and down, one at a time.

40. Playing career

41. Wash the windows

42. Clean Room

43. Learn yoga, whether in a class or a video

44. Brisk walk

45. Learn to dance


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Grandparents are an important support for parents as for children. They routinely provide care to children, financial assistance and emotional support. Sometimes they claim to provide much more, including the temporary or full time care and responsibility of their grandchildren ...

A growing number of children living in grandparent-headed households. This trend is due to:

* Increases in the number of families with one parent
* The high divorce rate
* Teenage pregnancies
* AIDS
* The jailing of parents
* Substance abuse by parents
* Death or incapacity of the parents
* Abuse and parental neglect.

In many of these homes, none of the biological parent is present. In most cases, children are cared for by grandparents are going to live with them as infants or pre-school and stay with them for five years or more.

These grandparents are a diverse group ranging in age from thirty to seventy. Many grandparents are ready to simplify their lives and take everything slow. Let that go and assume the responsibilities of being the primary parent again can incite many emotions, including sadness, anger, loss, resentment and possibly guilt.

This transition can cause stress and emotional and can involve a significant financial burden. The culture shock of dealing with children and adolescents of different generations can be enormous. The grandparent-headed households have a significantly high poverty rate when compared with other types of households.

Many grandparents in the role of child caregivers underestimate or are unaware of additional charges that his new role as' parents imposed on them''. Grandparents often assume that their role will be to nurture and reward the kids without having to set limits. When grandparents serving as parents, however, they must learn to set limits and controls as they did with their own children.

Many children living with grandparents arrive with preexisting problems or risk factors that include abuse, neglect, prenatal exposure to drugs and alcohol and parental loss (through death, abandonment and incarceration).

This situation can create risks for both parties, children and grandparents. Caring for grandchildren can also be very positive and valuable. Grandparents bring the benefit of experience and perspective. They may also provide important stability and predictability and be a role model for his grandchildren.

It is very important for grandparents to receive support and assistance. Reaching out to other family members, clergy, support groups and social agencies can be helpful. Professionals recognize the important role that grandparents are raising grandchildren. While most grandparents are able to meet their own needs, can better meet the demands of parenthood.
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Depression is a disease of adults, and in fact, the changes that our teens go through during this stage of life puts them in a very vulnerable situation. In this note, the key to successfully confront and overcome this disease.

As we know, all people, including children, suffer from occasional periods of sadness or unhappiness. However, if these experiences are sufficiently severe or long lasting enough to cause problems in normal activities, one could consider that the problem is more than just a period of nostalgia or confused feelings, and that could be going through a clinical depression.

Depression has no cure, but can have severe consequences if not treated properly and on time. In the case of children or adolescents, a major impact on their performance in school, participation in activities they previously enjoyed, and time spent with friends and family. And the more they are removed and absent from social activities, their teachers, friends, or family itself may begin to tell you that something is wrong with them, who are lazy or even crazy. As a result of these comments, self-esteem of adolescents may decrease further, which forms a vicious circle from which it is very difficult to escape. In more severe cases of depression, young people can start thinking about suicide.

Knowing whether your teenager is depressed

If your teen is depressed, probably exhibit two or more of the following symptoms for two consecutive weeks. These should be exhibited behavior not normally observed is due to a change in behavior:

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Has shown changes in their performance in school
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Have difficulty concentrating
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Easily irritated or angry easily
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Showing persistently sad or unhappy
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Has shown changes in their eating and sleeping habits
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Was withdrawn and absent from activities and people that previously used to enjoy
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It displays a guilt or anxiety
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He complains of pain and physical discomfort
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They have aggressive behavior, impulsive or high-risk
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Talk of death or suicide

Causes of teen depression

The medical community still is not sure what are the factors causing depression, since the reasons that cause this disease are varied, and may be different for each person. In adolescents, it could be caused by stress at school or relationships with peers. Some teenagers get depressed when they enter puberty, because of its difficulty to assimilate change their bodies. One thing to note is that nearly 14 years, adolescent girls are twice as likely as adolescent boys to experience depression.
Taking measures against the presumption of a depressed teenager

If your child exhibits symptoms of depression for more than two weeks, you should seek therapy. Your pediatrician may be a good person to start with consultations. Probably will do some assessments to confirm that symptoms are not caused by organic disease or infection. If your doctor thinks that the symptoms are quite significant, could lead to his teenage son to a psychiatric or psychoanalytic therapy.

If you have never been involved with medical or mental health therapies, possibly may be somewhat apprehensive towards them. However, you should know that times have changed, and now, seek help from a psychologist, psychoanalyst or psychiatrist, does not mean that your teen is crazy or you're a bad parent. Nor does it mean that your child must go through years in therapy. The earlier depression is diagnosed and begins to be treated, the simpler of healing and recovery time will be shorter.

Treating and curing depression

Each individual responds differently to the variety of treatments that exist today. There are many ways to cure depression, and treatment of your child depends on the severity of their depression and the methods that you and the doctors feel they will be most effective for her son.

Some of these treatments include: individual therapy sessions with analysts, where the patient expresses their problems face to face sitting or reclining on a divan group therapy coordinated by psychologists, where several patients suffering from similar problems confidentially talk about their difficulties helping each on others, family therapy, where the entire family attends meeting with psychologists or psychoanalysts therapies psychiatric medications, prescribed by psychiatrists and, in the vast minority of cases, temporary admissions in psychiatric clinics.

If you suspect your teenager is depressed, seek treatment as soon as possible to help them overcome their disease. The longer you wait, the more severe could become depression. Contact your pediatrician or mental health counselor at your hospital for more information about depression.
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Sooner or later we'll do this question. Better know the answer before they close the toy ...

Grandparents have a great reputation with respect to their grandchildren. The vast majority of them love to make gifts to children. All that the kids want them they are given. Obviously as long as you are within budget. But the most difficult task is to decide what gift to give, especially as they grow. So then we offer some options for you to decide what to give:

Start with the father and mother

It is always best to consult with parents. These can help you choose something. They can also tell you what not to buy. They may also have concerns about certain toys or want to give away the same as you had thought. They are also the most knowledgeable about the tastes and needs of their children. If parents are in a bad economic situation maybe you can help by giving away clothes or other necessities.

The gifts must meet the child

It is important to choose the gifts that meet not only the interests of their grandchildren, but their ages and abilities. Your grandson may not want to use a gift that is too advanced or too simple "-for him.

Grandchildren are related to your gifts with care and dedication. Even the kids have very different interests and desires. Most importantly, she likes the gift. Not because it is man who will love you give away a ball or because she is a doll.

If you purchase a gift to encourage a certain activity or develop a hobby or athletic ability to share this information with their grandchildren. They appreciate knowing that you take time to think about a suitable gift.

Financial gifts

Some young people seem to have it all. The last thing we need is another toy. If this is true in the case of their grandchildren, perhaps you can give money directly to them, or provided to any method of saving.

This is also very good for help, and your grandchildren when they grow to recognize that their grandparents contributed to their welfare.

Beginning traditions

You may want to start a tradition, which may allow even honor the special interests and personality of each child.

It may be that each birthday you want to give to their grandchildren books. As they grow you will choose a book to a certain age and personality. In this way help the intellectual growth of their grandchildren and they will know and look forward to that day.

You can also give him his memoirs, which will eventually turn into something very special for their grandchildren, a family treasure.

If you like the arts, can make special gifts. For example things done by their own hands as textiles, painting, etc..

The boys also have a great interest in how their parents were children. You could give a gift that has to do with it, such as a picture book or a toy that belonged to them. Sure in the case of giving an old toy it safe, since many of the vintage toys are not.

Consider the safety

Any gift you choose, you should be safe. Each toy specify for what age is recommended. You can also consult with specialists to see if what you give away is safe for your grandchild's age. Also consult with parents is a good choice, as these tend to be well informed about the safety of each toy.

Time together

Spending time with your grandchild may be able to be the best gifts. You can plan a trip to the park, zoo, theater, movies, etc.. You can even take them to the toy they choose for their gift.
Spend time with them is not only a gift, but also helps solidify your relationship with them. They are gifts for you both enjoy.

Watch your budget

If your grandchild asks a computer, and this exceeds your budget you could mingle with people or with parents to buy it. Or even buying some software can help. Although we hate to disappoint our grandchildren or being taken advantage of by the other grandparents, the important thing is not going beyond our means. Your grandchildren will understand.

You may wonder what kind of gifts do other grandparents to their grandchildren. Most often give away clothes, books, toys, CDs or DVDs, video games, other electronic devices, computers or software.

Perhaps you get an idea of the previous gifts that you have already been done. Other options may be to buy tickets for theater and sporting events, like a ballet, a football game, a music concert, etc..

But whatever it is what you choose to give away-is expensive or not-your grandchildren will know that wine was made with all the love you have for them.
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The difficult time to introduce your new "friend" to your children and how to make it easier for all

"Meet my girlfriend"

If suddenly meet someone and the relationship appears to be special, as responsible parents we know we must prepare to report the current situation the most important people in our lives: our children.

Knowing someone when you're a single parent can be complicated, but it's definitely a child's play when compared with the trauma of having to tell your children.

Besides fears of your children to be replaced, you must also take account of the fear generated by the possibility of having a wicked stepmother.

Such fears are, from the perspective of an adult, of course unfounded, but your children are legitimate and need to be addressed.

So how are you going to tell you that you've met someone special, that there may be someone new in their lives?

Here are some suggestions-and some obligations and prohibitions - to help in this task.
Tell children about your new "friend"

* Be honest with your children

If it's a nice story and funny, not afraid to tell your children how he first meet your new friend.

When painting a picture you will be pleasantly romantic in a way, teaching your children that the romance is important and that is something to be hoarded.

Also, tell this story your children will appreciate your honesty, which usually is the language that children speak.
· She inquires about their feelings

Ask your children how they feel about the fact that you have a new "friend". Of course, it may surprise you and tell you that they are happy for you.

A beloved and well-bred boy is a little person empathic. Our children want to be happy, and they know better than anyone (luckily) that cuddles and kisses are required for all-even for Dad.

* Make them feel safe

Remind them that they are, and always will be, the most important people in your life. Nothing and nobody can ever change that fact.

* Suggest the possibility of an encounter

Honor your children and show them that you think they have the maturity to handle the situation. Future plans made flexible (read: no promises) and suggests that "when the time is right, maybe you could arrange a meeting to get acquainted. Whatever you do, do not rush things.

It is best to take your time and play safe. The last thing we want is for your children to get involved emotionally with a good woman, only to witness how the relationship breaks down-which would definitely suffer in the form.

* Prepare your children for the presentation

If you plan to make your children know your new partner, reveals what you like about it previously.

For example, you could say she has a great sense of humor who likes to have fun telling you about his daily life: "You know what Laura told me in the office today?

It was a really funny comment. He told me long ago observed the way I walk and I do like a monkey. " Doing this will prepare the boys emotionally and make it easier to find when face to face.

So they will know her in some predetermined level of confidence to her.

* Keep your family traditions

Do not start canceling family traditions for the simple fact of having met someone. These traditions are very important for children, and are those that tend to produce the most positive impacts on their lives.

Not only the kids remember these traditions for the rest of their lives but also tend to spend their own children the torch of the same traditions that you or perhaps your parents or grandparents have invented.

Do not gripe about family traditions. However, to make the necessary arrangements to include a new participant.

* Ask permission

If you have teenage children, and think sleepovers with your new friend, ask permission before doing so.

Reassure them that you have a cell phone and always on, and can contact you for any reason. partner
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New times women have shown a surge in public space, which could eventually affect their relationship, if your husband is very traditional or conservative ...

For many years, the typical Western couple consisted of the man in the public space, ie the workplace, and women in private, that is the home and children.

However, times have changed, and today is not at all uncommon to find couples where both are, or even just her, who are active outdoors. And in many instances, women are responsible for achievement and success that undoubtedly demolish the traditional roles within the couple.

What, then, the attitude of men to the reversal of traditional roles in the couple?

As experts say, age plays a key role in the acceptance of living with a successful woman. While most young people seem to accept almost naturally the possibility that the roles are exchanged constantly, and in some cases they must be "masters of the house," the more adults are certain difficulties in adapting to these changes.

Indeed, where most adult couples, it has become apparent that many men seem to experience a decrease in its capabilities, strengths, and even sexual force when the women in the workplace than, quite possibly because they have been bred from very small to the conception of male identity that had just overcome relationship with and care for women.

But the truth is that since several years, female gender has been gaining on her own merits "-spaces in the past were exclusively reserved for men, and consequently, the man began to play the same positions of power.

Thus, many adult men are presented with the difficulty of having to confront a new reality with a mindset formed with other types of values and identity.

According to experts, in most cases these difficulties can be resolved with dialogue. In fact, while a woman can have brightness and weight in the public domain, could nevertheless have shortcomings in other areas, in which man would return to the role of "keeper" of his partner. Through dialogue, these points can be made sight of both, which would make them realize what is necessary to continue to each other.

Often, in cases where there is no dialogue and the man lives with envy or jealousy place to have ever achieved, by dint of hard work, "his wife, she may feel because of their successes, and not enjoy the same, or even throw them overboard. This situation undoubtedly have an impact on the couple's relationship, and sooner or later undermine the link.

Therefore, physicians say, is key in cases of couples with successful women will live the relationship as a cooperative organization, where both men and women have very clear that her success is closely related to motivation and stimulation that he dispenses.

The real man insurance

However, men more sure of themselves and their masculinity, are those that can accept without success and overcoming problems of his wife, because they know that it has no connection with love, affection and care which can dispense between yes.

Indeed, in many cases, these men feel a great personal pride in the success of your partner, because it makes them feel very well knowing that a woman living with important and protagonist, and are aware that much of its success has relationship with them.

In addition, men who can assume no difficulty motivation and success of their partners, know that it can be very beneficial for them and their family from the time their children will learn to accept this exchange of roles from very small , and in the case of girls, encouraged to follow the footsteps of their mothers.

They, in turn, will take away the responsibility of being the sole or main breadwinner of the household, and give them more space to devote to their children.
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When choosing a hotel for your vacation, you should think about wellness, fun and safety of children. This is a guide to the considerations to keep in mind

If you're thinking of going on vacation and have children, there are some issues to keep in mind when choosing a hotel. Of course, not all hotels take into account the smallest in its activities and you must take care to discover what they are.



Of course, the menu for adults will be much richer and varied, but children can often be an impediment to carrying out these activities. Then all you have to know about fees, activities and safe for the kids.



Some general issues that many often overlook, they have to do with food and discounts for children.



* If a free breakfast is included in the stay, does it have something your kids will want to eat?
* Do kids eat free in the hotel restaurant?
* Does the child stay is free of charge?
* What are the conditions of the program stay open?
* Do you get an extra discount if rent more than one room?
* You could get a cheaper rate by renting two adjacent pieces so that each of your children stay with an adult, instead of renting two rooms as a family of four.


The best hotel for your children



* What kind of pool is the hotel?
* Do you have a separate pool for children?
* The pool has a lifeguard on duty? When on duty?
* Does the hotel have a common area for recreation? "This area is supervised?
* Are there non-smoking areas inside the hotel?
* Can you sign adjacent pieces?
* Is there rent cribs available?
* Is there cots available for rent?
* The hotel restaurant has a menu for kids?


Babysitting services



Many hotels offer child care services, however keep in mind the following points:



* Some will have a specific structure of nannies.
* Other hotels hire nannies or babysitters to external agencies.
* In some instances, children are taken outside the perimeter of the hotel for their care.



Is it convenient to use childcare?



If that night the hotel offers a special activity for adults, then make it a special night for your kids too. Perhaps they can enjoy in-room movie, a new game or a delicious pizza. If you have teenagers with you, not make the mistake of using them as babysitters for the children.



These are also holidays for them. So if you want to use childcare, first you must determine if you feel comfortable leaving your children in charge of the hotel. In that sense, you'll want to ask some questions before making a decision.



* The hotel has a babysitting service internal or recommend any?
* What are the hours of babysitting service?
* What is the cost of service?
* What are the time limits on the length of service?
* Children must meet certain conditions to enter the service, such as voiding control, presentation of certificate of vaccines and certain parameters of age?
* What qualifications and training of staff members have the service?
* How old are the same?
* Are there any criminal background checks made on staff?
* Is the staff is trained to perform cardiopulmonary resuscitation in infants and children?
* Can take the kids to the pool of the hotel?
* Does the facility and caregivers of children are properly insured?
* What security measures are used when removing the kids from the center?



What if the hotel employs a service outsourced child care?



If it is an outside agency, get the phone number and call you personally. Surely, you want to know if the hotel has a space designed to meet the demands of children safely. It is always best to talk to the agency directly (you can make a better assessment of the service), to obtain the information through the hotel.


How to make a room safer for children



Many times, hotel rooms do not provide security measures for minors, so parents can end up paying more attention to what their children play with relaxation and enjoyment. Remember that, once in the hotel, you can not invent magical security measures.



* Check the security of the cradles of rent. Do you have restrictions on weight? Does the space between the bars (if any) complies with the prescriptions of the existing laws?
* Do the rooms have childproof measures? If not, can the hotel provide earplugs to keep the kids touch, for example, the outlet?
* Calls to the hotel to remove any questionable film publicity for your room and block these movies to your room.
* Be first to look at the brochures and discount coupons that are in your room since many contain adult advertising
* Although hotels wash the sheets every day, even the best are too expensive wash and dry blankets or blankets for each tenant. Since you can not know what they did the previous tenants on the cover, remove it, and if you bring sheets for your children, locate them on the bed. On the other hand, will you feel more at home.
* Make sure windows and balconies are always closed.
* Evaluates the lattice of the balconies. Would it be easy for your child to climb it? Does your head can pass through the bars? These risks mean that you should consider always the possibility of renting the first floor of the hotel.
* Tell your kids the address and name of the hotel. Many major hotel chains have several locations along the same streets in tourist areas. Place a card style "I'm hosting at ..." in their pockets.
* Many hotels offer cards or postcards printed so you can use for this purpose.
* Teach them to stay safe if you have to be left alone in the room.



What if you leave children alone in the room?



* If you leave children alone in the room, tell them to always keep the door locked.
* Tell them never to say to others who are alone in the room.
* You should always ask the name and intentions of who is knocking at the door.
* Teach them to call the front desk to verify the identity of anyone knocking on the door before opening.
* If the person is not a hotel employee, and delivering something unexpected for someone in the party, tell your kids that you respond to stop whatever they bring in the receipt.
* If the person tries to deliver something and says it needs a firm, teaches your children to say they carry the message to the front desk. Then, make that call reception and shall authorize the receipt by them. Thus, it will be impossible to fall into one of these tricks to open doors.


Tour the hotel



One of the first things you do when you arrive to the hotel, is to undertake a small tour of the same with your children. Why? The answer is simple ...



* The help you feel more comfortable in their new environment.
* It is a good opportunity to introduce people to the reception, who could help them in case of problems. Let them know that the people behind the counter often change, but they can always be of help if needed.
* The help is not lost and know the way back to the room.
* You can teach fire exits, stairways and fire extinguishers.
* You can explain the safety rules of the pool area.


What the boys need to know about the hotel bill



* To avoid surprises when it comes to pay, explain how the room's minibar, telephone calls and films.
* If you do not want these services, you can request that the minibar service is removed (or select the items to be removed), and films blocked. Make sure that the reception staff know that the hotel has removed the items from the minibar.
* Tell all the boys that if they try to sneak something, the hotel billing system and the find, therefore, you will notice you.
* If you have older kids, reaching agreement on the use of the phone, especially on long distance calls.
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Adolescence is the stage when sexual development. At this stage, along with physical and emotional changes, the boy discovers his sexuality, you feel like close contacts and discovers new feelings very intensely.

Sexual desire is not clearly defined at the beginning of this stage, so the adolescent may be attracted by a friend of the same sex. This, unlike what he might think, is part of the natural process of sexual development, so long an explanation to avoid the discomfort and confusion that might be feeling.

As time passes, feels increasingly drawn to the opposite sex, the sex drive is already clearly defined by what is now the problem reduces to overcome shyness and insecurity that makes them closer to the people of the opposite sex in general and especially when they feel a certain attraction.

2. Looking for information


The teenager is full of curiosity, he feels an enormous interest in knowing everything about sex, so they seek information from all possible sources. In general, the friends of where they receive the first information, and it is not surprising that most of the things they learn are incorrect or inappropriate and even misleading.

Other sources of information for them are television and movies, ie information through images. They also receive information through the internet as is generally overstimulated teen about sex and feel confused and depressed.

It is very important to be clear that parents who must help their children, guiding them to make informed decisions and consistent with themselves. It is therefore necessary that we speak in a clear and easy sex and regards him what love, intimacy, responsibility and consequences, besides teaching them to have a mature attitude toward sex.

With sound information in addition to avoiding problems is achieved that the teenager live their sexuality in healthy and responsible way, without any false expectations or pressure.

3. Values and respect to sex

It is our duty as parents to talk to the children of our views about sex and our religious beliefs, transmission of values and lifestyle, without this we require certain behaviors or remonstrate with certain decisions.

It is important also to talk to them respect in a relationship, communication, loyalty and love, love teaching them to live fully and delivered, remain free in their decisions and not be influenced by friends or by society.


4. Tips for parents to talk about sex

The adolescents, though they do not ask, are of great interest to know what their parents think about certain issues related to sex.

- Although it is uncomfortable for parents to talk to your kids about sex is an issue that should not shirk but cope and deal with the greatest possible respect to the children.

- If you are unsure how to begin to talk about sex, including pregnancy situations use of any known or scenes in a movie to start the conversation.

- We must be honest to them and give them the information they expect, responding to questions they do not scandalize us without lecturing.

- It is the duty of parents to make known their views about sex and if they think that sex should be taken from the marriage, they should say but also must accept the decision that your child takes. It is very important to inform and advise, but never impose.

- Sometimes teens feel pressured by friends to have sex, explain that a decision is too important to be authorized to decide for him.

- It is important that before you have been taught to have defined its own personality and so he is able to make their own decisions without being influenced.
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9/24/2009

Family Activities

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The family activities are essential and very important to achieve a closer, union and communication among its members. In these times where coexistence between parents and children are increasingly limited, we must pause and make some changes. We have many reasons or excuses not to live with our children, for example due to lack of time, money or work, but if you really have the interest being compatible moments together, surely we will find ways to achieve it.

There are many things that can be done either outdoors or at home, free or low costo.Para provide parents with the task of looking for those they like and where it can involve all, Here are some suggestions:

Activities that can be done at home

* Let sport: Parents should encourage their children to be active and constantly giving them better than a good example, plan physical activities where the whole family involved as well as being very healthy and promotes an approach more direct communication with ellos.Comience by making a list of activities that can be done indoors, for example, stretching and aerobics.

* Another way to make exercise fun way is through the dance.

* Build a family band and make music using as instruments the pots and pans for drums, rice in plastic bottles for the maracas.

* Make a family play the chosen theme favorite story of her children.

* Playing to find the treasure: This is hidden objects around the house and give clues to find hidden objects. Even to make it more exciting, the tracks of each member can be in any code to decipher.

* Play bowling with pine processed milk containers, juice bottles or empty cereal boxes and a small rubber ball.

* Make homemade dough sculptures will surely be great fun, the recipe for making the table is as follows:

Mix 2 cups flour, 1 cup salt 4 teaspoons cream of tartar, 2 cups water and 2 tablespoons of oil. Half hot flame until it forms a small ball. Remove from heat and knead until smooth. This mass can store in a tightly closed container or freeze.

* Design your family beach: There is a special paper called shuttle which serves to stamp any image on shirts or caps, you can do all the designs out of his imagination, drawings, letters or even photos (digital camera) of all family, pet or favorite character.

This is possible with the help of a computer you will be passed the design or photo you want to stamp, then printed on special paper sheet finally on the shirt or cap.

The transfer paper is not expensive, either shirts or caps, although you can use some already have at home and have no pattern.

Here you can find transfer paper prices.

* Cymbals delicious: Another activity that we can do with your family without leaving home and it does not cost, is to cook some dishes, there are recipes for children who are very easy and quick to prepare, then enlist all ingredients and cook together.

Click here to find several recipes for children.

Family activities you can do outdoors

* Go for a walk or take a walk to the pet.

* Make soap bubbles with a cup of shampoo and three cups of water to form bubbles and blow them to use a straw or form a sling with a thin wire or pipe cleaners. Then take your kids to a large place like a park to flow freely to catch the bubbles.

* If you live near a river or lake, take a swim in the family is another alternative to spend a moment together, or if you have the economic possibility may be to a spa.

* Family Olympics: Have your own Olympics with the best athletes can have: his family, made several competitions such as jumping or racing where everyone participates.

Outdoor activities that are low cost

* Organize a field day with the family.

* With chalk on the sidewalk or patio of your home can play on the plane traced with their numbers or rectangles and a circle with different countries to stop or play hopscotch winning who comes closest to your currency the line drawn with chalk.

* Playing with just a big soft ball can be great fun for your children, just put ingenuity and imagination games.

* Fill a cloth bag with dried beans and play to pass from one person to another, while dropping it.

* Skip or jump rope.

* Play with your kids to the spring, ask them the basics of the game, surely knows about them are girls.

* In such a family game of football, volleyball, basketball or baseball.

* If you are cycling or skating, one around the block on your street or in the park would be fun and relaxing for all.

* Another exciting option is to organize a family camp: If the garden of his house is large, so use it to set up camp, where tents have or can acquire some will be much better, if you prefer to choose a home outside a place wide and where the contact with nature as a park or in the mountains.

Get closer to your children and your partner, will lead the moments to be together, do not forget that communication and harmonious coexistence among members of the family is very important for this strong and healthy.
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The arrival of a new member to the family, represents a shock to everyone. Grandparents are no exception, and adapt to the new situation is not always easy ...

Many conflicts can arise from the birth of a grandson, who in addition to bringing joy can be very demanding for the family circle. We all want to feel like we belong somewhere, to be treated well and given the attention they deserve. So both the grandparents and parents, uncles and brothers must learn to adapt to the arrival of a new family member.

As grandparents, we feel that our position in the family is decreasing as it expands. For us to get more excited by the arrival of our grandchildren to the world, it is also true that the moments to talk or share things with our own children are increasingly difficult when they themselves become parents. Now they have very important responsibilities and hold them long. The other grandparents, uncles and brothers are also part of this picture. And to complete the familiar moments of discomfort, sometimes given the fact that ex-wives or ex-husbands share the time with the grandchildren.

We all want to accommodate and get along as far as possible. But sometimes it's a struggle. Analyzing this type of situation, we realize how tensions may arise even in family circles closer.

As grandparents, we also have doubts about the role that we occupy. We are no longer in charge of things. We must move away from center stage and let our children make decisions for themselves and for our grandchildren. And even our own desires to be left out more than one occasion.

But this does not mean that we stop being mothers or fathers. Although intimately know we should relinquish control of our adult children, to our eyes they are still our children. And this is forever, no matter how old you are any of those involved.)

Our place, but not always like it

We can and must continue to nurture our children. We can be a reassurance to them, someone who listens. They also live in situations of high stress. Now they earn a living for themselves and their families, and besides that now are parents and are very busy. We must help and accompany them, because they often need our advice or our attention.

On the other hand, often will not agree with some decisions that our children take in their role as parents. Or when we visited, perhaps pretend to spend more time with our grandchildren. We also think that their children-our grandchildren are being spoiled. It is tempting in such cases claim the authority that gives us the age and start giving orders again. But if we adopt that stance, over time we become less welcome in the house of our children.

We must earn the right to assert our opinion. This is accomplished by establishing a loving relationship with our children and gave themselves entirely when they need us.

We must also bear in mind that, currently, many new parents raise their children very differently than they themselves were raised. Are grown and have their own ideas about things. Also, know first hand the mistakes we made as parents. Sometimes it's very risky to give disinterested advice ... because our children, in many cases, want nothing to do with our advice.

Although there are moments when advice is inescapable. Please note that the security of our grandson is in danger, we should speak without hesitation. But it's also good to remember, from time to time, we already had our turn to do things right or wrong, and now what happens with our grandchildren will not be our responsibility.

When we hit our children

The conflicts that arise with our children are conflicts "borderline" by them as something else. It happens usually when both grandparents and parents do not meet the expectations generated mutually. These conflicts can include disagreements on ways to raise children or the degree of presence with the grandparents in the lives of grandchildren. Some grandparents do not have much respect for the role of their own children as parents. And in other cases, parents think it is normal that grandparents have to give their lives to look after their grandchildren when they have another engagement.

In practice, there must be a high degree of flexibility and maturity to solve such problems. And the weight of the problems should fall on the backs of their grandparents. As "solucionadotes, grandparents must:

* Try to resolve problems immediately.
* Communicate with all members of the family and listen very carefully.
* Remember that the most important for parents and grandparents is the welfare of children, and that should do anything to solve the difficulties that involve them.

However, we should not expect too much of ourselves. It's normal to feel jealous of the other grandparents, is a logical and understandable reaction. Perhaps the "other" grandparents live near the home of the grandchildren, are more present in their lives or have more money to make fabulous gifts. The important thing is to recognize these reactions in ourselves. There is no need to hide these feelings of jealousy thing to do is simply not letting imposed. If possible, it is advisable to build bridges of rapprochement with the other grandparents, sharing time with them and the grandchildren and also the time to share gifts.

The other grandparents may belong to a religious group of beliefs very different from ours. They can even speak a different language. Once again, it will be our responsibility to ensure that family relations are harmonious and without unnecessary tension. Why is it that our children and grandchildren come to expect.

We are the role models

As part of an older generation, we must be examples. We are the keepers of tradition and values of our family. We can light the way for our children, our grandchildren and our grandchildren, grandparents giving them love and being sympathetic. We must always keep communication lines open with our family. When problems can be addressed by appealing to love, without getting defensive, when all parties involved can see how it feels to be in the place of another person, we have many more options for dealing with happily.

It is worth remembering that, as grandparents, we are often in an unbeatable position. We can receive love and care for these wonderful creatures who are our grandchildren without having to plunge into the parental duties. Yes, of course we care about our grandchildren, and we also can get tired at times. But most of the time usually accompanying precious value, and we are thrilled and honored to spend time with them. As we tighten the ties with our family and our own children, we can rejoice with his people: our grandchildren.
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Why do so many parents make the mistake of constantly keep their children occupied? The importance of practice and leisure activities for children

Finding the balance between the schedule of activities for children and over-scheduling activities can be a difficult task for parents, especially when the pressure to compete and excel begins in the early school years.

Parents should teach their children to make decisions, and also must also learn to recognize their own anxieties related to the desire to see them succeed.

No kid should have his day full of scheduled activities. Parents should not put this pressure on their children for several reasons.

One of the duties of parents is to help their children make appropriate decisions, make sure to get enough sleep and try to prepare them towards a successful future.

But what does this actually mean? How can parents know when it has gone too far?

First, a parent must identify a purpose behind each of the activities that their children practice and ensure that these aims are appropriate to the age of the boy.

For example, during the preschool years, the objectives should be primarily social-teach kids to respect, sharing, listening, etc..

In the years of school, the kids are ready to begin building your skills, so they must be exposed to different types of activities-from languages to sports and music, so they can see where strengths and weaknesses-and their tastes.

Gradually, its activities should be accommodating to their strengths. Adulthood is the period in which they enjoy the qualities acquired in previous stages.

An indicator of over-programming of activities during the school years is the difficulty that the kids have to wake up in the morning.

Maybe not enough sleep. Children should wake up on their own. If you intervene to get them out of bed, you could be at a clear indicator.

Moreover, irritability and crying at a frenetic activity is also a symptom. Not all activities may cause your child a constant joy every day, but undoubtedly will have something attractive to the child or not be well-and in some way express his disgust.

The inability to enjoy yourself can be a consequence of the lack of free time. Our goal as parents that our children must develop the capacity of the trial in order to reflect and even fun.

The right balance

A smart way to discover what they love your children is giving them the choice of a sporting activity per quarter.

They can learn English and take music lessons, and must also have free time.

There must be a balance between structured time and free time. Free time is needed to encourage imagination in children.

In any case, is not the intention of the article to prevent your child participating in various activities. During the holidays, for example, if your kids are home for a week, will soon begin to spin like caged tigers, so it will be good to find some kind of activity for those days of leisure.

But is your child too busy? Clearly, there are some guys who have much to do, and have very little time to do.

It is a suffocating situation for the infant, especially when their parents are pushing for those who practice such activities.

Whoever is at fault, one thing is certain: the over-occupation is a reality in the days running.

Why boys are so busy?

In some families, the kids accept these tight schedules because they will not be excluded from their circle of belonging.

Teenagers, meanwhile, feel the pressure to keep their schedules full of activities, perhaps because they want to be sent to the school of your choice.

Some parents may feel obligated to keep their children occupied, instead of giving them the opportunity to play, explore and learn on their own.

Parents also may feel the need to involve their children in classes or activities because they believe their kids are missing something that other children receive.

Generally, parents want whatever seems best. Even when intentions are good, each child can easily become overloaded by too much activity.

The pressure to participate in various activities all the time can be daunting since the physical and emotional for both parents and kids.

Of course, the activities and organized sports are beneficial for kids for several reasons. First, encourage social interaction and provide opportunities for play and exercise.

They also promote cultural enrichment, teach camaraderie, discipline, and strengthen the capacity of conflict resolution. And above all, are fun.

The key is to keep things this way, and ensure that children do not begin to choke.

Symptoms of excess activities

Sooner or later, the boys over-busy themselves begin to show signs of excessive activity.

While each child is different, the most common is the child:

· Feel tired, anxious, or depressed.

· Was complaining of headaches and stomach, possibly due to stress, to disordered eating and lack of sleep.

· Shows little willingness to make school obligations, generating an overall decline of the notes.

Moreover, over-occupation often have an impact on friendships and social life of boys. The family can also suffer when their members are in different directions.

When a parent is driving to basketball practice the other is going to tennis lessons. Many times, meals with all family members are utopian.

Consequently, kids are lacking a crucial time to connect with his family. In addition, the weekly yoke keep kids from one class to another, from one game to another and from one practice to another can be tiring and stressful for parents.

Tips for Busy Families

Even parents who try to help their children to moderate their activities may have to deal with coaches who can not tolerate absences and kids who want to be with their friends.

However, it is important for parents to discuss the situation calmly and make sure their children are not experiencing activity overload.

The key is to organize things in moderation and activities according to age, temperament, interests and abilities of your child. If something is too advanced, the experience can be frustrating.

If it is too challenging, you may be bored. And if you want to do an activity, practice or just to please you, so it will be enough to forget and think about something else.

Depending on the age and interests of your child, you can set reasonable limits on extracurricular activities and help make them more enjoyable for both you and your child.

Here are some simple suggestions:

· Agree to certain ground rules before things get out of control. For example, plans to practice a sport per season, or limiting the activities to two afternoons or evenings during the school week.

· Before saying yes, make sure your child knows how long it takes to practice this activity.

For example, will there be time to practice between classes? Does your child you realize that soccer practice is twice a week, right after school until dinner time?

Also, there will be a weekly party. Will comply with homework? Is affected their academic performance?

· Keep a calendar to stay organized. Display it on the refrigerator or another prominent spot so that the whole family can be aware of the day's activities.

If you find an empty space on the calendar, leave it as is and advantage to rest.

· Even when your child is enrolled for the entire season, let miss a class or two. Sometimes using the opportunity to allow you relax on a beautiful day is more important than going to another activity, even after you pay the monthly fee.

· Hicos parents attending the same activity, to make things a little easier, take turns to take the kids.

Thus, if you can carry five or six children, take your turn every five or six classes. It's a big difference ...

· Try to balance activities for all children, and for you too. It is hardly fair to spend time and energy being one of your children to an activity and leaving little time for the other.
And do not forget you also need some time for you to do things you enjoy, and spend happy moments with your family.

· Create family time. If you can only eat a slice of pizza while you dress for night-before going to court for one of your children, it may be appropriate to think about planning the calendar of activities for the kids in a way that respects the time dinner. Even, you could delay the dinner a while so eating all together.

Also, be sure to create family leisure time, like playing cards, a board game or go out biking together.

· Set priorities. School must come first. If your child is in trouble, academic, must keep studying instead of going to karate class.

Learn to set boundaries and say "NO". If your child is already engaged in many activities and is saying he wants to take piano lessons, say it is not possible to add another activity, and must discard some to practice his new interest.

· Not underestimate the importance of leisure time. Everyone needs a chance to relax, reflect, or simply do nothing.

Reassuring

Take a moment to think about the lives of your children. Reflect. If you think you are over-busy, invite them to sit around you, perhaps by offering a glass of chocolate milk-and decide together which activities to delete.

If you have children very structured, with school, extracurricular activities, and tasks, whose days seem carved in stone, should help ease their lives.

Bike riding, taking a walk, play cards, listen to music, or simply do nothing for a while, give your children some of their needed rest.
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1. Focus your attention on "giving" rather than "receive." When your goal is to give pleasure to your partner, you will always find opportunities to achieve your goal. Because of this you also gain, since people tend to reciprocate positive behavior.

2. Be careful to keep silent when you insult your spouse. Ignoring the snubs and insults, you will avoid many unnecessary arguments. The moment of anger will pass quickly.

3. Disclaimer of unrealistic expectations. People enter marriage with high expectations that are not consciously expressed. By giving up unrealistic expectations, avoid frustration and anger. Do not expect your spouse to be perfect and do not make comparisons.

4. Avoid labeling things that upset you with the name of "horrible". Try to find a positive outlook on things.

5. Think about how you can motivate your partner to do what you want him / her to do. If your first strategy is not effective, continuous testing with other strategies. Subtle Remember that praise is a powerful motivator.

6. Be aware that the answer will really get according to the intent of your message. Clarify your goals. If your method of communication does not help you achieve your goal, change your approach. Setting your mind on the main objective, which is having a happy marriage, do not deviate.

7. Ten willingness to compromise. Be willing to do something that you would do in return for similar behavior from your partner.

8. Do not blame or condemn your partner for the mistakes he makes. Plan the best method to prevent such errors from recurring, without arousing resentment or hurt the feelings of your partner.

9. Live in the present. What has gone wrong in the past is over. Focus your thoughts on improving the situation at present.

10. Constantly ask yourself: What can I do to have a happy atmosphere at home?
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The stunning silence. Parents who see their children become independent or away from home for a while, they often feel an inevitable vacuum that puts in melancholy and insecurity ... how to overcome the empty nest syndrome?

At the time of emancipation, there is a change that many parents feel: a role ends. The role of cooking for them, play with them every day, to awaken and receive ... some things change.

How do I take it?

The fact miss them and love them more often is as inevitable as normal. But that does not mean that separation is a natural process of growth and maturation, the product of good education that parents give their children, and that should be taken with patience and ease.

It is time that parents spend more on themselves, go, work, share time with friends, not worry about aesthetics more so, and so on.

Time spent with a passion for the children for years, may now become fun, entertainment, dedication to self. Childbearing years have passed, including serious crises and great moments of happiness, take this new phase as a "reward" the effort, not a bad idea.

And even when their children need them, act as if I want why not spend more time enjoying the rest of their lives? Leave behind some of the concerns they had when they were little and admit that they have already grown.

Ask yourself as I would be at age 85, on his personal life, your friends, your hobbies, passions, work, etc.. the conviction as a trigger to start enjoying a little more.

Do not sacrifice your dreams and goals. Assert yourself goals and know what you want to achieve. Continue with your life interrupted projects could not realize for one reason or another.

Identify the reasons why you can not make progress on their projects, they do say "no" when means "yes" and vice versa. Be patient and persistent. At least 30 days will get a change in behavior and make it a habit, and at least six months for a habit begins to become a part of his personality .... but worth it.
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The participation of adolescents in intra family relations, is often quite complicated. Parents and children are constantly vying for the validity of the authority of adults and intermingle in great discussions ... How does parental divorce and the formation of a new young couple?

The number of separations and divorces today, has increased considerably, and with that statistic, the continuing conflicts in adolescents. It is always possible to establish new family relationships, but sometimes requires enormous efforts.

The issues to be taken into account are related to the moments experienced by family members. You should consider the teenager has suffered a loss like you and the rest of the family.

In forming a new kernel, you must re-create certain links essential for coexistence, but in no way can we expect the young than the previous stage, or links that can replace without taking the situation between her parents.

Often new marriages are different ways that can generate polarizations that away from her new family.

Ways to acclimatize to the new family

"By recognizing and regretting what they have lost.

"Developing new ways of taking decisions as a family.

-Encouraging and strengthening the new relationship between parents, stepparents, stepchildren and step-siblings.

"Building another

-Allowing the continuation of previous family relationships, beyond the distance that separates them.

Such conflicts are often resolved favorably with the help of everyone, even with the support of grandparents, very important for the young at this time.

However, there is the possibility of intervention required of a trained professional to assess the following symptoms if they occur:

Isolation and zero-acceptance of aid, to overcome the crisis

Crossroad between the two families and too much pressure to decide between the two

"Being too angry to feel guilty for the situation

"Insecurity in all aspects

-Removal of all family and friends

"Fierce anger against the father or stepfather and violent attitude against a family
Possible origin of the conflict in the adolescent

-Little attention the parent for the young, labor issues or stress

-More attention to another son of former marriage

"Banish the new or new member family (stepfather or stepmother)

-Allow to enjoy normal activities

Adolescent relations with his new family, may be normal and satisfactory if one seeks to impose affection or forget the past, as the adolescent is generally the more likely it is to get along with others, but also the major constraints that is ...


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9/14/2009

Tips for a modern mom

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To daunting task and not die trying, here are some of advice that can help you cope and reduce the stress they cause all these requirements:

1. Avoid multitasking or do multiple things at once.

2. Take a break at least 3 times a day where "stop" all activity, sit down and do not "do anything for 15 minutes (which for more you do the list is endless).

3. Find my time or is time for you without children and without remorse.

4. Go out with your partner at least every two weeks and left one night a week to update.

5. Listen to soothing music (Real Music Company has a whole collection realmusic.com incredible).

6. Join with other mothers who have children the same age for them to play and you two talk of your things.

7. Lean on family or, pass the kids to grandma if using.

8. Do not use the little time you have to watch TV unless they are short and fun series for desintoxicarte and laugh a little (laughter remains one of the best therapies for stress and frustrations especially stop).

9. Get out of house with or without children, fresh air feels good the whole family.

10. Do not waste your time or money in shopping malls or going, is the most stressful but at that time you wish. Remember the motto: Less is more.

Above all, do not take so enserio, have fun with children, spend on irrelevant things (who cares if the house is not as clean as it used to) that of being a mom is a blessing that you must learn to enjoy every day.
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When children are prepared for sports, parents often wonder how to provide encouragement but no pressure on them, rather than playing an important role in monitoring and guide their behavior in recreation and fun .... You are the first coach of its son.

Show an active interest in the sport. Learn what you can about the work he carries out his son, and practice it with him. His commitment gives more weight to the passion he put on fun in the sport of your choice.

Do not put too much emphasis on winning or losing, it's important to learn the mechanics of game and congratulate them when they improve their skills and achieve fun.

Involve your child in the task of buying the practice squad. Their clothing is essential to feel comfortable and happy to practice their favorite sport.

Do not demand too much physically to his son. If you want to take a break in play, do so. You may also want to stop playing for frustrated: in this case do not force it to continue, that would only worsen their mood and probably do lose the taste for activity.

If it leads to a small school football, basketball or sport it is, make sure the coach treats all children equally and does not want to encourage feelings that do not add anything to his son, as fierce competition, the win-win , or other matters that have nothing to do with sports and entertainment by a child.
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9/10/2009

A New Brother!

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How does the birth of a new baby to a toddler? What should parents do?
Author: Dalia Sneider

The arrival of a new member in the family, always movilizante for the family group and especially for his firstborn. From his inner world arise certain questions that refer to the place that will be assigned to the new member.

He feels that "his place" will be moved.

Behaviors in the child before the birth of a sibling

It is common to the news of the arrival of a sibling or after birth, the child shows in their behavior, some regressive behavior, "wanting to be a baby", to thus recover supposedly lost his place. Example: re-wetting, wanting to take a pacifier or bottle again.

You can also call attention to tantrums, fights with friends, nightmares, eating disorders, etc..

These are all ways to show jealousy through acts, without the mediation of the word.

With respect to these reactions is decisive response by the parents and not give too much importance to note that they are "visiting".

They affirmed their place will help the child, incorporating the idea of having a brother, to help with preparations and baby care to the extent that the child be interested, take time to be alone with him, he feels that he has not lost prominence and love of their parents.

Fraternal bond

This is a link to build, not a given naturally have one or both parents in common.

Based on how parents transmit the arrival of new member, they're going to be establishing fraternal ties.

Sibling rivalry is natural and inevitable, living intimately aggressive and loving feelings.

Man shows essentially selfish behavior with which people transferred their love, is slowly giving up its exclusive use, agreeing to tolerate certain losses and frustrations.

Keep in mind that this relationship helps the child to interact with peers and with time, as they grow, we are overcoming the rivalry, leading to greater unity and friendship.

Preparation before the arrival of a sibling

New Questions

The arrival of a sibling, triggers new questions on the child, which makes maturing and growth.

Questions about sex differences: the roles of male and female. Some answers we often hear are: "Dad has belly because it is fat, Mommy has a baby."

Questions also arise about the origin of life: How are the babies? Why where they come from? How do you make?

Questions should not be sealed as they stimulate the thirst for knowledge and curiosity in children, essential for the incorporation of knowledge.

Transmission

It is important the message is transmitted to the child, if that brother was desired, if the parents are happy for their arrival. No "disguising" the love and affection towards the baby will help give value to give and receive.

It is the job of parents, foster sharing at home and not compete, learn to respect differences in each other, not to make comparisons because each has its time, individual likes and desires.

What makes the difference and particularity, is enabler, not coagulation.
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